Financial recovery after abuse does not happen in a straight line.
This website is built around six financial foundations — common areas many women encounter when rebuilding financial stability after control or abuse.
They are not steps.
They are not a checklist.
You do not need to work through them in order.
You may recognise yourself in one.
You may recognise yourself in several.
You may move between them over time.
That is expected.
How to Use These Foundations
You can:
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read quietly
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explore one section
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skip what doesn’t feel relevant
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return later
There is no correct starting point.
The Six Financial Foundations
1. Good Times
This foundation relates to recognising moments of stability, relief, or safety — even small ones.
It acknowledges that financial rebuilding does not only happen in crisis, but also during periods where things feel calmer or more manageable.
2. A Financial Safety Net
This foundation focuses on creating a sense of financial security and preparedness.
It may involve thinking about buffers, protections, and practical safeguards — at a pace that feels safe for you.
3. Building More Wealth
This foundation explores the idea that financial stability can grow over time.
It is about possibility, not pressure — and looks beyond survival toward longer-term financial wellbeing.
4. Safety and Sanity
This foundation centres emotional, mental, and practical safety in financial decision-making.
It recognises that clarity, boundaries, and peace of mind are just as important as numbers.
5. Let’s Talk Culture
This foundation acknowledges the role of culture, family beliefs, and societal expectations around money.
It creates space to reflect on inherited ideas — and whether they still serve you.
6. What Next?
This foundation is about looking forward in a gentle, non-urgent way.
It invites reflection on future choices, direction, and what feels possible — without demanding action.
About the Book
When Money Isn’t Yours is a short, reflective guide exploring financial control and recovery, written from lived experience..
The book can be read slowly, selectively, or non-linearly.
Kindle edition: free
Paperback: optional
The website can be used with or without the book.
A Gentle Note
You do not need to understand everything at once.
You do not need to decide anything today.
Exploring one idea — or simply knowing this space exists — is enough.
Optional Next Step (only if you want)
When you’re ready, you can explore any of the individual foundation pages — or step away and return another time.
You are welcome to move at your own pace.
