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From Pain To Gain

Mr Wrong

Mr Wrong Hello my dearest. Did you miss my post called Mr Right? Check it out here . I do encourage you to check out The Freedom Programme website too for more information. Wishing you an awesome day, a prosperous 2018. Much love, Deborah.

Mr Right

Mr Right Happy brand new 2018. I will not be saying too much about this as the graphic speaks a thousand words. For more details please kindly visit The Freedom Programme here . Have a wonderful. Much love. Deborah

Tick Tock Tick

Tick Tock Hello and how are you doing today? What's the weather been like in your neck of the woods? I think we can confidently say that summer has finally made way for autumn here in the UK!!! It's sunny, then rainy and then it decides to be windy. It's been such a while since I posted a blog and so here it is. I want to share one of the bizarre things that became an issue when I was at the height of the domestic violence. The sound the ticking clock on my bedroom became a source of comfort for me. It seemed like the only constant in life....other than my two beautiful daughters. Just listening to the ticking of the wall clock meant that I knew there was some hope. Bizarrely, as soon as I decided to clear out my home, the first thing to go in the dustbin was that clock. I needed to be free in all angles and free indeed I am. I hope you enjoyed this short post. Check out other post here Much love Deborah

Having Money Fights is Normal

Hello friends and loved ones. As you know, I love posting videos vs writing blog post. I hope that you enjoy this video where I talk about a quote I heard made by the talented Dave Ramsey, which is, "If you are married and have money fights, you are normal". I love this quote so much as I agree that in life, we cannot but have disagreements sometimes. However, these disagreements must NOT lead into any form of violence. Please do enjoy it and leave any comments or questions that you may have. Here is the previous post if you missed it. It's titled Money Literacy and the Church. Much 💛💜 Deborah

Survival Kit To Go From Victim To Survivor

Reconciliation After Domestic Violence

Money: The Root "Curse" of Domestic Violence

Hello peeps. I hope that you have been keeping well. I would like to share with you details of my upcoming book called  Money: The Root "Curse" of Domestic Violence. The book is due to be released on  3rd April 2017. You are cordially invited to pre-order your copy using either of these links. Please click here my  US family  and for my  UK family All I can say is that the feedback received about just the description and title of the book in the space of a few days has been super awesome. As the author of the book, I can tell you that you will not be disappointed once you pick up your copy. Thank you for your continued support. Deborah

Freedom Of Expression

Even when a woman is free from her aggressor and getting on with life, there is still a very good chance that she is a prisoner to her previous life. Isn't that such a shame? Life is a.......

A Poem About Domestic Violence

Hello everyone and I hope that your new year is going well. It's been a minute since I've been on here. I've been busy tidying up the blogs I manage. In the coming weeks, I will be featuring a guest blog or two which I hope that you'll find enjoyable and useful. We must try to enjoy ourselves no matter what the circumstances are.

Domestic Violence Playlist

Top 10 REASONS To Stay With An Abuser

Hello my lovely viewers and welcome to another interesting topic about domestic violence. As women, there are very few of us who immediately pack our bags at the first sign of trouble. Do any of these reasons that I share in this video resonate with you? It's some of these ridiculous reasons that we convince ourselves exist and which forces us not to take action.  Perhaps you've been in denial of the reasons why you choose to remain with an aggressor.

Being Friends With Abusive Ex

Good day my lovelies and how have you been keeping? I know that my blog has been receiving some attention and by that I know that someone out there is benefiting from my story. Now, I also know that speaking about these issues in public can be very scary(I'm not stupid) or you may even feel ashamed to share your experiences, but I do truly believe that a problem shared is a problem truly halved. Just as I share my story with you, your story may resonate with someone even more than mine does. We just have to speak up about this issue to help save another life - especially where children are involved. If you are happy to remain quiet whilst reading my post, I totally understand that too. Please do hang around as I love having you here. The questions today is: Should I Be Friends With My Abusive Ex? Has this question ever crossed your mind? What were your initial thoughts? Did your final decision differ to your initial thoughts? Thank you for simply taking the time to

Do Him A BIG Favour

Hello my YouTube Family. I hope that you had a safe and sound Christmas with those that you love and respect...and vice versa. I'll leave you with a simple phrase whilst you watch the video: Love Does Not Hurt

Money Problems = The BIG 'D"

Here I am at at a public speaking engagement called the Networking Mixer where I briefly talked about domestic violence. NB - I do apologise for the poor footage as the reception on the night was poor. I addressed the following key points: 1 ) what is domestic violence? 2) how does domestic violence start? 3) what are the myths of domestic violence? 4) effects of domestic violence on the sufferer? 5) My own story of getting out of a violent relationship?  I attribute the cause of domestic violence in my relationship to be deeply rooted in the severe money issues we had. So what is the solution? 1) Seek professional financial help and solve the root of the problem. 2) Seek professional help with managing one's emotions 3) Don't repeat the same mistakes. 4) Consciously find ways to heal. 5) And if all else fails? 6) Get out of there for the sake of your security and sanity - especially if kids are involved. I was asked the question - so how and w

Where Is The Freebie

I will always be honest with you on this blog and simply tell you the truth...I'm still working on the freebie. My sincere apologies for the delay and I hope that you will forgive me as I promise, it will be well worth the wait. I'm a bit of a perfectionist(that's what has been causing the delay), and before you say it, I know that no such thing exists. Perfectionism is simply a state of MIND So now that I've got that out of the way, I hope that you are keeping healthy and strong. I would like to leave you with this mantra: It is your right not to allow anyone else take away your safety and sanity.  Have a fantastic day and be safe.  Oh, in case you aren't aware, I also have a blog  where I teach money literacy and share my story of how problems with finances was a contributing factor to the violence I suffered in my relationship.

He Pulled A Knife On Me!!!

Hello readers and supporters alike. I hope that you have been doing quite well. As promised a few days ago, here is a video sharing my story with you. When you live with or marry someone who later becomes someone that you don't recognise, their actions will be one of the first things that is noticeable. Their behaviour becomes unpredictable - sometimes even to the point of wondering whether they have lost their mind. I live to tell the tale, as there are simply no words in the dictionary to fully describe how I felt. The heart of man can be so so evil. How can a man who professes to love his wife suddenly see her as an object to control and abuse? Perhaps that man was always like that and simply suppressed their feelings long enough. I'll drop my pen for now and we'll catch up very soon.

10 Reasons Why I Stayed In An Abusive Relationship

Howdy and what have you been up to lately? Have you missed the videos? I sure have missed them. The videos will be back soon, so look out for the video on the topic of this post. Yes, I made my own excuses as we always find a good excuse as to why we need to stay in an abusive rather than get out of it. Although I do not advocate leaving a relationship over a little argument or misunderstanding, but I wholeheartedly advocate fleeing an abusive relationship where you live and any dependents lives are in grave danger. If you do not escape, you will forever blame yourself and the guilt alone can quite easily cause you much more anguish than the abusive relationship. I hope you will stick around and watch the video on my reasons for staying - although I have since left the relationship. The next blogpost/video will be an interesting topic and I will be offering a FREEBIE to tie in nicely with the topic of this post. Thanks so much.

What Is My Personal Story About Domestic Violence

Hi and how are you doing today? Can I assume that it's been a good one for you today? If not, you can use the comment box below to rant a little. I won't mind as I know that there are days you just want to scream out. So, today, we are taking a break from the videos and I'm posting instead. I want you to know that just like you, I have a story to share - and share I will. As a sufferer of rheumatoid arthritis(RA) which affects the dexterity in my hands, videos and live streaming works much better for me. Believe it or not, I also type at the speed of lightning - as I learnt to type about 30 years ago using the old fashioned typewriter(also learnt shorthand...although I doubt anyone still uses shorthand these days). Therefore, even though we are taking a break from the videos, I will be posting a video of my personal story. Look out for the video. I am wishing you a great day from the very bottom of my heart and thanks for being here with me. NB - maybe one d

Toxic Relationship - Get Out Of It PLEASE

Hello everyone, welcome back to another video and I hope you are enjoying these videos. I would love to hear your feedback on the videos. It means a lot to me to interact with you and despite my ordeal with domestic violence, I am extrovert and I love networking with people. It is the one thing that I was able to keep hold of during that horrible period of my life - although it wasn't enough to keep me sufficiently sane. I thank you sincerely from the very bottom of my heart for taking time to watch the video. I'm sharing my story to help at least 1 person out there.