I've been wanting to write about this topic for quite some time. I was waiting to gather more real life examples of the experiences of real people, At this point, I'm going to focus on speaking to women because I want us as women to learn the power in letting go of that anger and frustration which comes with legal separation and divorce. If you are a gentleman reading this, then, I hope you'll be pleased with what I have to say. Please do share you thoughts below if anything I say resonates with you. Thank you. How often have you heard couples who are going through, or have been through a bitter separation talk about both parties agreeing amicably?
I know that there are a handful of cases, however, it's quite natural to feel aggrieved whenever a relationship ends - for whatever reason it. Adultery or infidelity probably ranks very high as one of the culprit of adding to the level of rage experienced by one or both parties.
Here is the thing ladies. Get angry. Get mad. Scream. Cry. Lament. Seek sympathy. Once you've done all of that, dust yourself down and eat some humble pie! Yep, I said it, eat some humble pie. It'll save you lot of money in the long run.
There will come a time when you need to have a discussion about settling on things such as properties or assets with financial value. At the same time, you'll have your legal team who's ready to argue on your behalf.
It's the job of your legal team to defend your case in court. What I'm about to say is NOT to put any legal professional out of pocket. Rather, it's to help one woman(or more) maximise her settlement when it's all over and done with.
Ladies, if you know in your heart of hearts that you can afford to split the settlement 50/50, then do so.
Your sanity is more important than walking away with 70%. More importantly, your legal team wants you to argue about the split. The more you argue, the more paperwork is generated. The more you are charged for the work that your legal team is doing. Of course, you could quite easily receive an 80% share in the long run. It's time to do the maths!
How many years have you been arguing for? What will your final legal bill be? How much of that 70 or 80% will you actually receive? How much weight will you lose or gain during that time? How many more grey hairs will you have grown in that time? How put off will you become when it comes dating again?
Let him have it. Go 50/50! I can hear you right now saying, but it's not fair! No, it's not fair.
Here is a little consolation of what I believe is round the corner for you.
You will definitely surprise him by simply saying, yes to 50/50. Rebuild your life and be happy. My definition of the word 'ex' means exit! Have a read of this article on the soaring cost. There's no haste to saying, 'I Do'. Getting in is easy and beautiful. Getting out is a whole different ball game!
I hope that you enjoyed reading this post. I have to write that post on economic violence. It's been almost one year that I said I'll do so.
Until next time,
Much💜
Deborah
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